The Bear has been having struggles in school. In their folders, there is a calendar and on the days they are "good" they get a sticker. If they haven't been "good" there is no sticker, but a note about what rule they have broken. The Bear is having issues with keeping his hands to himself. We have received notes like, "poked his friend", "pushed his friend", "hit his friend in the throat", "knocked his friend to the ground", and todays note, "hit friend in the face". Do you find it strange that the notes say "friend"? Well, he only hurts the kids he really likes. He doesn't do it because he's mad, he just has these uncontrollable urges to "love" someone to death.
We have tried so many things. Not letting him play games when he gets home, (computer games are his life!), the teacher has taken away playground privilages, we've told him go fold his arms or hold his hands together, I bought a stress ball that is supposed to sit on his desk for him to squeeze when he needs an outlet. I thought things were good this week, a sticker 2 days in a row, and then today. BAM!
It talked to the teacher he had last year who was trained in special ed, and she suggested the ball. When I took it to school on Tuesday, his new teacher looked at me like I was nuts, and the ball has remained in his backpack. The Bear says, his "brain tells him to do it." He has a lot of involuntary movement in his arms and legs that his brain really does "tell him to do" that he can't control and his old teacher thinks this might be related. So, what do you do? I feel like he's really not meaning to hurt his friends, but I can't just ignore the problem. Do I continue to punish him at home?
I am at my wits end. I am tired. I am grouchy. My head hurts. I have run out of ideas. I feel like I'm about to "loose it" in a big way, but am holding on to patience by a thread. I need a vacation.
Oh, and did I tell you that my over-extended, over tired teenager is treating me like a human doormat? You say that's normal??? Oh...yeah.